The World of Scott Mindeaux

From My Perspective

Meeting people is hard enough, much less the whole dating thing. So I’m back on the subject once again of me always having to be the initiator on phone calls, emails, text messages, etc. Here’s the thing, if I don’t initiate, I won’t hear from them. Why is that?

It really boggles the mind. I sit there thinking if I don’t contact them they might think I’m not interested in them. But on the flip side, if they are interested, why don’t they call? It’s very frustrating I have to say. There have been a few guys that I have been chatting with over the last few weeks and its very disappointing to come to a place where there seems to be interest on both sides but then, nothing.

What am I doing wrong?

So a Follow Up to Yesterday’s Post

So…I had a thought today.

It’s just easier being lonely than dealing with the intricacies of dating sometimes.

Leading Me On…

So what does it mean when someone says that?

In as many days, I have been told twice that they didn’t want to lead me on.

Does that mean they are interested but being cautious or that they aren’t interested at all and that is the polite way of saying no?

I find myself in yet another situation where I really like this guy and he has said that he doesn’t want more than just being friends cuz he doesn’t want to lead me on.

It’s very frustrating. I want to be with him because he has told me how he has been hurt by former boyfriends and “friends”. I want him to know that I really do like him and that I really just want to hold him and prove to him that not all guys are out to take advantage of him. I see him on our “non-dates” and find myself wanting to reach across the couch and hold his hand or to put my hand on his shoulder in support. I’m a very touchy-feely kind of guy in general and it hurts that we haven’t even had as much as a hug.

Guess I have to continue to hear how he is being taken advantage of, meanwhile I’m sitting there wanting to prove him wrong…

Remember That Good Guy?

I was so happy that I thought I met a real person that I even blogged about it this past weekend?

Well turns out that he flaked on me and never even called to explain why? When I called him an hour after we were supposed to meet, he said he had other plans. No apology, nothing. 

Well so far for the rest of this week, he has not returned any emails or messages.

THIS, is why I don’t date. THIS is why I’m afraid to date. THIS is why I’m always suspicious about people who want to go out on a date.

You know how you get that high…

You know how you get that high from something great and then you get side swiped and your bubble is burst? Well, strike 3 in the dating arena today. Not sure how I feel, I’m actually numb to it. It’s late on Sunday and feeling like crap.

Why is this so hard. I’m very confused and demoralized.

I’m going to bed.

Feeling Lonely

Over the last few weeks I have been feeling very lonely. I see those commercials on TV where the guy is driving in the car and he is looking over at his wife – she doesn’t know he’s looking. He’s so happy to be with her. Then they show them holding hands and he give her a Journey Diamond Pendant.

The other commercial is when the husband gets up in the middle of the night to close the window and disappears down the hallway. We then see him come back, crawl into bed, and place a diamond pendant on his wife. His wife wakes up to what is on where chest and she finds the pendant. The husband is pretending to sleep and the wife leans over to kiss him and he slowly smiles.

My romantic side wants to do that to someone….. someday.