Have you ever been on Craigslist and seen the heading of Miscellaneous Romance. It’s supposed to me the section that differentiates itself from men4men. This was in there this past week. It was actually written by me. I had been the victim of being dumped by email even before we had met and I got a little hotheaded.
Filed under: Dating Sucks!
There is no real romance in Southern California and more specifically in Orange County – that’s why we have a category called Miscellaneous Romance.
We all want the same thing. To meet people, interact and see where things go from there. But that isn’t how it works. Treading the online personals is just the same as going to a bar. You walk thru a field of guys, assessing them based on what you see, not who they are. Sure we all post ads talking about our dreams and aspirations, we talk about the kind of things we like to do and hope someone out there likes those things too. Some post pictures of themselves and others too shy or probably more truthfully, they don’t want to be dismissed so quickly just based on their looks. They’re hoping someone will at least talk to them and take the time to say hello, ask how your day was, be thanked for replying, or ask what compelled them to answer your ad.
Not to much to ask…at least make the person feel somewhat dignified that they took the time to answer your ad. Maybe I’m trying to be more concerned about the dumpee than the dumper. I usually tend to be the dumpee.
Everyone has interests and likes. For me I like cooking, sharing a meal, cooking someone’s favorite dish. I like computers. Yes I’m a computer geek, luv my gadgets and like my toys. Not too much into console games or gaming in general. One exception might be 1st person shootem games. I like just hanging out and watching TV. How about going to “It’s a Grind” and just sharing a quiet moment with your favorite latte and a good book. You read yours and I’ll catch up on new trends in web and print design on my Mac. Maybe you like shopping. If you’re like me, you probably don’t have alot to spend, but window shopping is therapeutic. Do you find places like Home Depot and Sur La Table like giant candy stores? Do you cut out coupons only to have them pile up on your desk and when you finally want to use them they’re expired? Do you try to do the right thing and carry your canvas bags with you in the car so that you never have to use a plastic bag ever again? – but then the reality sets in that you forgot them on the table and you don’t have any and you ponder buying new ones or just having them give you plastic for that one trip?
Does just sitting on the couch and watching TV knowing that someone is just there to hang out with give you the most satisfying feeling? Or maybe its late and you want to go scavenging for some late restaurant just to get coffee and dessert. Then maybe there are those times that you just want to go down to the beach at night and sit on the sand and listen to the waves break in the darkness.
What do you like to do?