I’m Not OK With It…
My parents are moving away. Not just moving but moving overseas. For the last day and a half a full size cargo container has been parked in front of the house and they have been filling it up with furniture, with boxes with everything! Over the last 30 hours I have been seeing pieces of “history” put into the truck. The house is starting to look void of anything that was “the house”. This was the house I grew up in.
- The pictures of me from being a kid on up are gone. Packed.
- The photo albums. Gone
- The mismatched plates and silverware my parents insisted on keeping. In a box.
- My room that became my mom’s. Empty
- The piano I took all those lessons on. First on the truck.
- The pictures over the couch that have been there for 20 years. Gone in a flash.
- All the arguments from the past lingering in the air. Blown away
- All the hugs, all the fights, all the memories…still in my head
I guess I still have that. But I really don’t want them to go. I mean my parents will be half way around the world. I’m being selfish I know. It’s what they want.
The house is a mess. It’s a big nightmare. In addition to my parents stuff leaving, all my sister’s stuff is moving in. You see, my sister and her family moved in over a year ago and they will continue to stay there even after my parents leave. We also have been dealing with the death of a friend of the family. It has been on all of our mind, especially my parents who are the most closest to him. They were going to Las Vegas on Sunday, but they are going on Monday. The wake is scheduled for Monday afternoon. My mom and dad are going to pay their respects.
On Wednesday they leave for the Philippines. Wednesday will be a long day.
April 14th, 2009 at 19:32
Hey, sorry to hear that; it must be difficult. Hope you guys can keep in touch with each other as often as you need to; that goes a long way towards feeling connected.
April 14th, 2009 at 20:06
Hi Jeff, thanks fr stopping by. They have a Magic Jack that has a 949 number associated with it in addition they have Vonage. So keeping in touch will be easy for sure!
My parents last day in the States is tomorrow, I’m taking the day off to spend it with them.
April 15th, 2009 at 08:30
Scott,
You are in exactly the same situation I was in. Parents retired to the Philippines, sister moved in to the house and made it her own. Your notions of “home” will soon only exist in your memory. Get your parents a skype account along with the Magic Jack. It’s easier to do video chat than just voice. It’s helped me with my transition.
My parents retired last year.
April 15th, 2009 at 08:43
Thanks Jesse. Today will be hard, especially at the airport tonite, but taking the day off today to spend it with them. THe kids are here too. I didn’t know your parents made the same move, I hope you didn’t go thru the same emotions as I have the last few days. Its been pretty gut wrenching.