Sometimes the four categories of this blog entry mix together and there are even times where one melds into another.Â For example a hookup turns into dating, which in turn turns into friendship and in some cases, even a relationship.Â Then there are the times where you have a friend with benefits, where does that fit into the mix?
But what happens when you don’t have 3 of the categories? If you’re not dating are you relagated to having hookups and friendships? Can you have a relationship without going thru the dating stage? How many people have you hooked up with and was able to stay friends with?
Why am I talking about this?? You’re probably thinking that I’ve gone crazy, and that probably is the right answer.Â I took a bit of a break from the office tonite and had to get out of the office or I would go insane. Once home, I turned on the tv and watched some cooking shows from Saturday that I have Tivo’d.Â I also went online and did a blog entry and went on AIM and ran into someone who I hadn’t seen in a long time – it was my friend Alex [not the Alex from recently - I'll call this Alex, Alex C].Â Alex C.Â asked me how I was doing and I told him I was ok.
He had read a few of my last few blogs and said that I should be hanging out with him instead of going on dates that are just “ok”.Â I laughed.Â Truth is, Alex C. and I started off as friends. He approached me on a site and introduced himself to me. This was a couple of years back.Â He actually found me thru my old podcast.Â He never left comments while I was doing the podcast, but I knew he was there.Â After moving back to the OC, Alex C. and I met.Â He and I went on a few dinners together. I hesitate to call them dates.Â We had always joked about “connecting up” and a few visits later we did.Â We had a nice dinner and we went back to his place to watch a movie.Â He was showing me something on the computer and then next thing I knew we were making out.Â I was kinda caught by surprise.Â Was this a friends with benefits thing or was this a hookup? We were still kinda new to being friends so, at the time, I classified it as a hookup.Â After that night, I was hesitant to see him again. Don’t get me wrong, I had a great time.Â It’s just that “connecting” sometimes clouds things and wasn’t sure if things changed.Â The next few times we saw each other, I always distanced myself away making sure not to get too close. I wasn’t sure if Alex C. was that into me or not.
But why? What was I afraid of? Why did I distance myself.
Anyway….he said he wants to hang out more – he said he didn’t understand why we stopped hanging out.Â I told him I might be at Tin Lizzies tomorrow night. I promised Karen (the bartender) I would come. I might call Alex and see if he wants to hang out tomorrow night.
So more closer to home, errr work, Tim is here. Actually there are a few people here. Tim had a good weekend seeing his neice and hangin out here in the OC.
Back to work I go….Filed under: Personal Log